Want to have some fun?
Here’s a quick quiz to see how savvy you are with patriarchal myths re sex and sexuality. While there are lots of obvious ones, in the next few weeks, I’ll explain 5 that surprised me.
Why? Because how we think about sex and sexuality conditions us to behave a certain way. I want to crack that open.
Plus, when you know more than your kids, and more than your kid’s teacher, you’ve got credibility. That goes a long way towards having open conversations about sex.
Ready? Let’s go!
True or false: The egg cell passively accepts whichever sperm reaches it first.
Yep. Scientifically, we know it’s false, but the truth just doesn’t fit our paradigm of masculinity and femininity, which has been defined by…you guessed it…patriarchy.
Many sex-ed classes and science text books portray the egg as a sleeping beauty, passively drifting along, waiting for the swiftest prince to claim her.
Actually, the human egg produces chemicals to attract the sperm. In both mice and sea urchins, it has been demonstrated that the egg cell chooses which sperm of many to accept.
What if we painted this picture: The egg sings a siren song as she journeys through the fallopian tube. Sperm near and far are compelled in her direction. As she meets her suitors, she chooses her favorite and shuns the rest.
That’s quite a different power dynamic, and it’s the truth.
How does it feel to hear that story? What changes inside you? Please add your comment below.
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In support of you,
P.S. Happy fall! School has started for many, and parent groups everywhere are planning their events for the year. I’ve got a bunch of presentations lined up already, and if you’d like me to present for your community, I’d be delighted! Click here.